Trauma Sensitive Sexual Health Coaching & Education

Hi, my name is Bianca! I want to talk to you about sex. Yes, you.

I offer trauma-sensitive, research informed sexual health coaching on a one-on-one basis. (I do not offer couples coaching at this time, but can refer you to someone who does!) I work with people of all genders, ages (18+ please), and backgrounds.

What is sexual health coaching:

My goal is to create a comfortable and supportive environment where you can feel free to talk about sexuality, ask any questions you may have, and receive the emotional support and guidance you may need. Many of us did not receive comprehensive sexual health education from school, family, or community when we needed it most, and may still feel a bit lost well into adulthood. It would be my honor to be a friendly member of your support team that you can depend on for accurate and empathetic education, exploration, and guidance. With over 25 years of experience navigating kink, polyamory, sex toy industry, sex work, LGBTQ+, and academic sex research communities, you can ask me anything- and if I don’t know the answer, I will research it for you!

My coaching sessions are conducted over zoom or phone, with no nudity or explicit sexual media beyond what is appropriate for educational purposes. You call the shots about what is in your comfort zone, and I will do my best to steer clear of topics that may feel upsetting or triggering to you. This is what is meant by “trauma sensitive:” while I am not a therapist, I am a person on my own c-ptsd healing journey, which gives me empathy and insight to the delicate nuances of delving into sexuality with a trauma history. My goal is to create as safe-as-possible container for you to discuss and explore your relationship to sexuality in a way that feels productive, healthy, and meaningful to you.

What my sexual health coaching is not:

I am not a trained or licensed therapist. While healing and self-examination is an important component of coaching, our sessions will be more focused on exploring your needs the present moment moving forward, rather than unpacking the baggage of the past. If you have severe unresolved trauma, or struggle with untreated mood or personality disorders, I highly recommend that you consider seeking therapy prior to, or concurrent to coaching. You don’t have to be “perfect” to do this work, but you will get the best results if you have some healthy coping mechanisms already in place.

While we may be discussing sexuality in a frank and honest manner, the objective of coaching is not sexual titillation, but education and self-reflection. If I sense that you are pushing for an inappropriate interaction, and you do not respect the boundaries laid out for our session, I will terminate the session and the professional relationship and you will not receive a refund for the session.

I do not offer couples coaching, or coaching related to navigating romantic or sexual relationships with others (ie couples therapy). While we may discuss these things in the context of our work together, the primary focus will be on you, and your needs.

Please feel free to contact me if you have questions or need clarification about what I can and cannot help you with.

You might want to consider Sexual Health Coaching if:

You never got the sex education you truly needed growing up, and are ready to learn.

You are curious about sex toys but don’t know where to begin.

You want to have a stronger sexual of your sexual needs and wants before you seek sexual relationships with others.

You’ve never had an orgasm and you want to learn how. Or you want to learn how to orgasm more reliably.

You want to learn how to have different kinds of orgasms: multiple orgasms, energy orgasms, g-spot orgasms- you name it!

You are recently single, or have been single a long time, and want to get your sexy “groove” back, but you don’t know how.

You are already in therapy and want to work with someone who can specifically support you around matters related to sexuality matters.

You want to identify more deeply understand your sexual desires and needs, and how to fulfill them. Are you stressed out by your lack or experience, or worry that you are too “out there?” Are you concerned that others might think your fantasies are “weird,” but want to explore them nevertheless? Curious about dipping your toe into BD/SM, sex magick, or polyamory? Let me help you delve into this in a safe, comfortable, way that puts YOU first.

My Self Love Coaching style:

I identify as non-binary femme (I use she/her or my name as my pronouns), fat, and queer; and I work with people of all genders and sexual orientations. Neurodivergent people, BIPOC, disabled people, trans and non binary people, queer folks, sex workers, fat people, kinksters, pagans, poly/non monogamous folks, and others who may struggle with feeling judged or misunderstood by mainstream coaching professionals are especially welcome here. “What if I’m totally hetero, monogamous, and vanilla?” You’re welcome here too! If you have any questions or concerns prior to working with me, please feel free to reach out via email.

Coaching is a completely confidential, judgement free space where you can express yourself openly and honestly. It is a mutually consent-based environment where either of us are free to end the coaching relationship at will. I will do my best to give referrals to other professionals if you need support beyond what I can provide.

How to get started:

My basic coaching rates are $125/hr. You may schedule 20 minute initial consult for $25 (non-refundable), to assess whether working with me is the right choice for you. If you decide to proceed, the cost of the consult will be deducted from your first session fee. You are welcome to work with me on an occasional, one time, or ongoing basis, depending on your personal needs. I currently meet with clients via phone and Zoom only.

I accept a limited number of sliding scale appointments to clients experiencing economic hardship each month. You may be added to a wait list if those slots are claimed for the current month.